Some little girls daydream about their big day, dressing their dolls in beautiful outfits and accessories, or pretending how their beau’s last name would match their first. Of course, this is just child’s play. Eventually, that grown-up little girl may have gotten so busy in her career or has lost herself after a long relationship to remember those dreams, that she may give up. Take a good look at yourself now and make a list of all that you have to offer. Next, think about the qualities you’d like in a partner. The next few tips will help with attracting the right guy, but remember throughout the process that you are worth it, you’ll be living your true self, and everyone around you will benefit, including you!
Are you an avid botanist, or love playing pickleball? Keep doing those things. You’ll end up attracting someone you have something in common with and you’ll show up as your confident self because of your proud achievements.
According to Psychology Today author Theresa DiDonato, Ph.D., who is a social psychologist and a professor of psychology at Loyola University Maryland, ‘Confidence is a highly attractive quality’, so own your strengths and don’t be afraid to live and show up as your authentic self.
Your mindset is where it all begins. Affirming positive feelings throughout the day will, over time, overcome any negative self-talk we all experience at one point or another. Where do you begin? First thing in the morning, look in the mirror and talk to yourself. Include positive, loving, and motivational words. You’ll feel a pep in your step as you walk out the door. A positive attitude is contagious, so try to focus on the good things in life and let your optimism shine through.
Meeting the love of your life is harder to do if you stay in your comfort zone. Go to a meetup in your area, or say yes to an invite that you don’t really want to attend. These may be great opportunities to meet people you wouldn’t otherwise. Don’t be afraid to meet new people and try new things. You may be surprised at what you may learn about yourself.
Most Importantly: Be Patient.
Finding Mr. Right takes time, so don’t get discouraged if you don’t find him right away. Just keep putting yourself out there and eventually, you’ll find the right person for you.