“Is it okay for me to get back with someone from the past?”
This is a question I’ve been asked tons of times already. And let me tell you, I’ve had friends suffer heartbreaks because of wrong decisions. My mouth could run for hours and hours, tell them don’t do this nor that, list out all the consequences their decisions might have for going back with someone from the past. At the end of the day, they can’t help it, they still follow their hearts and go for it anyway.
Well, it is okay to rekindle with a past flame but here are some questions you need to ask yourself first before going for it.
- How did that relationship start? Having a good and stable foundation in your relationship may be a good reason for you to take a chance again. Was it something serious? Were both of you equally invested in it?
- How was the relationship? Think about the experience you had with this person. Did you have a great time? Did you feel loved and appreciated? Or was it toxic?
- How did it end? This is probably the most important thing you have to think about. Why did it end in the first place? Was it for the betterment of you two? Or did it fall apart because it was an unhealthy relationship?
Take all these considerations before you make a move. Don’t be swayed by sweet words or by sweet memories you had with that person because there’s more to it than the unicorns and rainbows.
Remember how this person was, did they treat you well? Were they careful with their words? Were they never abusive?
If it was an unhappy, toxic relationship, I’m already telling you that nothing will come out of this but heartbreak and misery. It will only repeat what had happened before. Have you not learned yet? Was the pain not enough? Don’t you have some self-love or self-respect?
But in the chances that you are willing to try again, and you really think this person is worth it, then for the love of God, give it a go!
And the next time you find yourself asking if you should rekindle with someone, remember these questions first so that you could be spared the heartbreak or get a win when you take a chance on someone once again.